Was it pride that moved Him to confront the Pharisees, the respected religious leaders of His day, for their hypocrisy, their arrogance, their empty performance of righteousness?
empty performance of righteousness
Like your entire post? You know when you read the Bible you’re supposed to see yourself in the bad guy of every parable right? You’re not an “authentic” follower of Christ. You are suffering from severe prelest. You’re literally a sinner and should be begging God for mercy and praying daily for all the people you disparaged earlier.
Try pulling the log out of your own eye before talking about the speck in your brothers.
Also if you’re a follower of Christ you have to go to Church. It’s not optional. Your antisocial musings about your “authenticity” are a clear sign of somebody who is out of orbit and believing their own BS.
If I had to venture a guess, that poster is just another .ml poster clocked in for another shift at the local troll-farm. May not even be a real person…
I know. I took a look before I responded. I had a sense of who I was dealing with. I decided to extend an olive branch, but I wasn’t surprised by what I got in return. At this point, I’m mostly replying for the sake of others who might be reading the thread.
Manmoth, I have done this long enough to know when someone isn’t interested in genuine conversation.
To everyone else reading this exchange: this is exactly what I was talking about.
I shared a deeply personal experience about the gap between Christ’s teachings and the behavior of many who claim to follow Him. And this was the response:
Dismissal. Accusations of delusion. Demands for repentance. Theological gatekeeping. No curiosity about my journey. No questions about what I saw or experienced. No willingness to consider that someone might leave the church for reasons worth examining.
Instead, I was told: “You’re deluded. You’re prideful. You’re antisocial. You must go to church.”
This is the pattern many of us have encountered. When we raise concerns about the church’s witness, we aren’t met with reflection or dialogue. We’re met with accusation and calls for submission. The response isn’t, “Help me understand what went wrong,” but, “You are the problem.”
Notice what happens: Scripture becomes a weapon instead of a balm. Theology becomes a wall instead of a bridge. And the conversation becomes about control, not compassion.
And this is precisely why I can no longer bear the name Christian myself. Because this, this dismissal, this judgment, this refusal to engage with genuine spiritual struggle, is what that name has come to represent. Manmoth isn’t an outlier. This response is the norm. This is Christianity as most people experience it.
For those of you reading this who’ve had similar experiences, you’re not crazy. You’re not alone. Your concerns about the gap between Jesus and Christian culture are valid. And the fact that raising them often provokes exactly this kind of response… should tell you something.
To those in the church who genuinely want to understand why people are walking away, this exchange is a case study. The ones leaving aren’t always rebellious or prideful. Sometimes, they’re the ones who took Jesus’s words about love and integrity so seriously that they couldn’t ignore the contradiction between His call and what they saw happening in His name.
I’m not swayed by your moral posturing and stand by everything I said.
I shared a deeply personal experience about the gap between Christ’s teachings and the behavior of many who claim to follow Him.
“I believe, O Lord, and I confess that Thou art truly the Christ, the Son of the Living God, Who camest into the world to save sinners, of whom I am first.”
Unless your deeply personal experience about the gap between behavior and Christ’s teachings starts with yourself then you are just being a Pharisee.
Dismissal. Accusations of delusion. Demands for repentance. Theological gatekeeping. No curiosity about my journey. No questions about what I saw or experienced. No willingness to consider that someone might leave the church for reasons worth examining.
News flash. Christianity isn’t about what works for you. It’s about repentance and submission to God. You CAN be wrong and there is a REAL church and fundamental theology that cannot be dismissed.
If you’re leaving a church because the people there are “bad Christians” then you should look at yourself in the mirror because – guess what – we’re all bad Christians. The worst ones think they are the best.
No matter how “good” of a Christian you think you are you will always fall short and be a sinner.
This is the pattern many of us have encountered. When we raise concerns about the church’s witness, we aren’t met with reflection or dialogue. We’re met with accusation and calls for submission. The response isn’t, “Help me understand what went wrong,” but, “You are the problem.”
The Bible is literally a book telling you that you are a fallen, spiritually sick creature that despite this fact is made in the Image of God and can be saved. In short, you ARE the problem. If you don’t understand that then you’ve missed the entire point. Submitting to God is actually the best, most healing thing for yourself because only then will you cooperate with the Holy Spirit and begin the process of spiritual healing.
Instead, I was told: “You’re deluded. You’re prideful. You’re antisocial. You must go to church.”
Notice what happens: Scripture becomes a weapon instead of a balm. Theology becomes a wall instead of a bridge. And the conversation becomes about control, not compassion.
Exactly. You are using Scripture to keep dominion over yourself instead of submitting to God and living in accordance with the doctrine of the Church. You are building a wall to separate yourself from the body of Christ.
And this is precisely why I can no longer bear the name Christian myself. Because this, this dismissal, this judgment, this refusal to engage with genuine spiritual struggle, is what that name has come to represent. Manmoth isn’t an outlier. This response is the norm. This is Christianity as most people experience it.
I’m not morally posturing or softening my language I’m giving you real Christian advice. Go to church, repent, participate in the sacraments and engage in fellowship with your struggling brothers and sisters in Christ. Your “story” doesn’t matter because Christianity isn’t about you. It’s about prayer, fasting and almsgiving. It’s about being a functioning member of the body of Christ and cooperating with the Holy Spirit.
If you’re upset because you’re not getting the response you want then maybe you want the wrong response.
To those in the church who genuinely want to understand why people are walking away, this exchange is a case study. The ones leaving aren’t always rebellious or prideful. Sometimes, they’re the ones who took Jesus’s words about love and integrity so seriously that they couldn’t ignore the contradiction between His call and what they saw happening in His name.
The Church (Eastern Orthodoxy) is eternal. You are always welcome but it is up to you to take your seat at the wedding feast. Any church that bends to the arbitrary demands of modernity isn’t a real church. At best it’s a community with a vibe.
First of all, I want to thank you for engaging with me. You have definitely given more thought to your position than your initial replies. I dismissed you as someone not willing to actually engage based on those short responses, but this last reply had depth and effort. I truly appreciate and respect the effort.
You’ve made your position very clear: submission, sacraments, and Church are non-negotiables in your view of faith. I understand that, and I even understand where it comes from. The tradition you’re drawing from is ancient, rigorous, and unapologetically structured.
But what’s missing here, and what is truly heartbreaking, is any sign of compassion for another person’s spiritual wounds.
I didn’t come here to tear down faith. I came because I loved the Church. I gave it years of my life, my energy, and my care. I spent six years in formal religious study. I learned Greek and Hebrew so I could seek truth and teach it faithfully. I led weekly studies for fifteen years, speaking to literally thousands of people who longed to know Christ. I watched marriages fall apart. I watched people suffer in silence. I watched young hearts burn out trying to earn a love they were told was unconditional.
And I served right in the middle of all of it. My entire life’s work has been Christ.
So when I speak of grief, I speak from the inside. This isn’t theory to me. It’s memory. It’s life.
Your response hasn’t engaged with any of that. You haven’t asked a single question. You haven’t tried to understand. You’ve quoted doctrine and offered correction without even pausing to wonder who you’re speaking to. You assume I left because I didn’t want to submit, when in truth, I stayed far longer than was good for me because I wanted to be faithful.
The Church you speak of, and the God you seem to represent, appear interested only in obedience and conformity. But the Jesus I encountered in Scripture? He wept with the broken. He dined with the outcast. He challenged the religious elite. He called people not to power, but to love.
So here’s my sincere question for you:
If someone came to you and shared that the Church had wounded them, not once, but persistently and they did so with humility and pain in their voice, how would Jesus respond?
Would He accuse them?
Would He quote doctrine?
Would He tell them their experience doesn’t matter?
Or would He listen?
Because that’s really what this comes down to. Not whether I agree with every line of theology. Not whether I tick every box of orthodoxy. But whether those who bear the name of Christ actually reflect His posture when someone is bleeding spiritually.
I have no expectations here, but I’ll leave you with one final question for you to ask yourself and sit with:
You’ve made your position very clear: submission, sacraments, and Church are non-negotiables in your view of faith.
It’s THE view of the early church fathers ergo it’s real Christianity. Adherence to the structure of the church isn’t blind submission it is a union of the body in trust and love. The sacraments given to the Church by Christ are key to spiritual healing and union with God. (Which is what you’re on about by the way)
But what’s missing here, and what is truly heartbreaking, is any sign of compassion for another person’s spiritual wounds.
Clarity is a form of compassion. I don’t mince words especially on Lemmy where Christianity is all but spat upon. My comments are clear, concise and uncomfortably direct on purpose. No matter what you have gone through you will never heal heal on your own. Period. When you go to church you will find people that will relate to your struggles and a confessor who will hear your sins and offer spiritual guidance. You will not and should not expect to find this on Lemmy. There is no substitute for the Church.
Your response hasn’t engaged with any of that. You haven’t asked a single question. You haven’t tried to understand. You’ve quoted doctrine and offered correction without even pausing to wonder who you’re speaking to.
That’s not what Lemmy is for. I didn’t offer you that courtesy because you shouldn’t bear your soul online to strangers. You should do that with your brothers and sisters in Christ. Preferably far away from electronics during coffee hour or something. You DO need a group of people that have a sound theology and doctrinal awareness so that you can trust their advice and earnestness. You could even befriend them and know that the new person in your life is well-intentioned and seeks Christ as you should.
The Church you speak of, and the God you seem to represent, appear interested only in obedience and conformity.
Orthodoxy sees obedience as union, not conformity. It’s about becoming one with Christ, not passing a test. Christ did dine with the outcast, but He also told them, “Go and sin no more.” He loved without condition—but He also called to repentance. Both truths walk together. One without the other isn’t love—it’s sentimentality or legalism.
But the Jesus I encountered in Scripture? He wept with the broken. He dined with the outcast. He challenged the religious elite. He called people not to power, but to love.
He also chastised them, challenged them and told them to pick up their cross and follow him.
If someone came to you and shared that the Church had wounded them, not once, but persistently and they did so with humility and pain in their voice, how would Jesus respond?
Would He accuse them?
Would He quote doctrine?
Would He tell them their experience doesn’t matter?
Or would He listen?
I can’t speak for Christ but I assume he would listen, for a time. He has the advantage of truly knowing your heart. He would ultimately call you to repent and follow him though. Your suffering and heartbreak, your “story” is only important insofar as it leads you to Christ.
Because that’s really what this comes down to. Not whether I agree with every line of theology. Not whether I tick every box of orthodoxy. But whether those who bear the name of Christ actually reflect His posture when someone is bleeding spiritually
Without knowing you better than what I’ve read so far my inclination is not to engage with your call to bear witness. I do not think it would be helpful. This is the wrong place. By now you know where you should go to resolve such things. Christ is not monochromatic and the truth is the truth. You are excommunicating yourself from the body of Christ and are putting yourself in spiritual peril. Do with that what you will. I care far more about you going to church to find spiritual healing than I do about piety signalling with some phony affectation.
Am I Christlike?
I have no idea of the content of your heart. This is a question only God can answer.
If I were to assess myself I’d say ‘No’. I’m a selfish and indulgent sinner who daily disobeys God and pursues my own passions.
Alright, I want to say this first: I appreciate that you’ve stayed in this conversation. I really do. I can tell you care, that you take your tradition seriously, and that you’re trying to offer what you believe is truth. That matters to me. I’m going to speak just as plainly as you do, because I think you can handle it.
You keep pointing to your sin like it’s some badge of spiritual maturity. But Christ didn’t die so you could stay tethered to your brokenness. He died so you could actually change. He didn’t offer you a mirror just to say, “Yep, still filthy,” but to cleanse you and fill you with His Spirit so that His love becomes what people experience when they encounter you.
You speak of repentance as if it’s the destination. It’s not. It’s the doorway.
You talk about church as the only hospital, but then point to sacraments and tradition as the required price of admission. You keep reducing the gospel to obedience, when the whole point of transformation was not through your obedience, but His. You are like Christ because of Christ.
And if Christ in you and through you is the goal, then look at how He loved. He confronted religious pride. He broke bread with doubters. He listened before correcting. He touched wounds before calling people to sin no more.
Right now, your version of Christianity seems to say, “You’re disgusting. Come to church.”
But the gospel contradicts that directly with, “You are deeply loved. You have been made whole.”
Your sin isn’t the problem. If the work of the Cross is actually finished, your sin is not your problem. It was Christ’s.
What I see in you is a refusal to believe you can actually live differently. That Christ can actually live through you. That His Spirit doesn’t just forgive, it transforms.
You want me to come back to church? Then show me what church people look like when they truly believe they’ve been made new.
You say Christianity isn’t about me. But Jesus didn’t die to protect institutions. He died for people. For their hearts. For their healing. For their wholeness. That is the good news.
So I’ll keep talking to strangers here, or anywhere else I can connect with people. I’ll keep telling my story. I will bring the Church to them. Because someone out there needs to hear that there is nothing to be ashamed of anymore. Love defeated shame.Love defeated doctrine-as-a-weapon.Love is the good news we share through our words and our actions.
And since you speak often of repentance and obedience, I’ll offer this to you in your own language:
If the Church is a hospital, as you say, then what do you do when the wounded are afraid to walk through the doors, not because they reject healing, but because the people inside keep reopening their wounds?
Is it not a kind of spiritual malpractice to demand repentance from the hurting without first washing their feet?
You’re right, Christ calls us to die to ourselves. But if that death doesn’t make us more gentle, more approachable, more like a refuge for the broken, what exactly is dying in us? And what’s still holding on?
And one more thing. You seem to have misread my last question. It wasn’t for me.
It was for you.
Are you Christlike?
Not in your theology. Not in your discipline. Not in your sacraments or church attendance. When people think of you, do they think of love? Love in your tone. Love in your compassion. Love in how you treat even a stranger—not just on some internet platform, but everywhere.
Because as Jesus said, that is how they will know you are His disciple.
Like your entire post? You know when you read the Bible you’re supposed to see yourself in the bad guy of every parable right? You’re not an “authentic” follower of Christ. You are suffering from severe prelest. You’re literally a sinner and should be begging God for mercy and praying daily for all the people you disparaged earlier.
Try pulling the log out of your own eye before talking about the speck in your brothers.
Also if you’re a follower of Christ you have to go to Church. It’s not optional. Your antisocial musings about your “authenticity” are a clear sign of somebody who is out of orbit and believing their own BS.
If I had to venture a guess, that poster is just another .ml poster clocked in for another shift at the local troll-farm. May not even be a real person…
Plenty of real people who act like that out of their own volition. Still not worth wasting keypresses on.
I know. I took a look before I responded. I had a sense of who I was dealing with. I decided to extend an olive branch, but I wasn’t surprised by what I got in return. At this point, I’m mostly replying for the sake of others who might be reading the thread.
Me too
Which part of what I said is wrong?
Manmoth, I have done this long enough to know when someone isn’t interested in genuine conversation.
To everyone else reading this exchange: this is exactly what I was talking about.
I shared a deeply personal experience about the gap between Christ’s teachings and the behavior of many who claim to follow Him. And this was the response:
Dismissal. Accusations of delusion. Demands for repentance. Theological gatekeeping. No curiosity about my journey. No questions about what I saw or experienced. No willingness to consider that someone might leave the church for reasons worth examining.
Instead, I was told: “You’re deluded. You’re prideful. You’re antisocial. You must go to church.”
This is the pattern many of us have encountered. When we raise concerns about the church’s witness, we aren’t met with reflection or dialogue. We’re met with accusation and calls for submission. The response isn’t, “Help me understand what went wrong,” but, “You are the problem.”
Notice what happens: Scripture becomes a weapon instead of a balm. Theology becomes a wall instead of a bridge. And the conversation becomes about control, not compassion.
And this is precisely why I can no longer bear the name Christian myself. Because this, this dismissal, this judgment, this refusal to engage with genuine spiritual struggle, is what that name has come to represent. Manmoth isn’t an outlier. This response is the norm. This is Christianity as most people experience it.
For those of you reading this who’ve had similar experiences, you’re not crazy. You’re not alone. Your concerns about the gap between Jesus and Christian culture are valid. And the fact that raising them often provokes exactly this kind of response… should tell you something.
To those in the church who genuinely want to understand why people are walking away, this exchange is a case study. The ones leaving aren’t always rebellious or prideful. Sometimes, they’re the ones who took Jesus’s words about love and integrity so seriously that they couldn’t ignore the contradiction between His call and what they saw happening in His name.
I’m not swayed by your moral posturing and stand by everything I said.
“I believe, O Lord, and I confess that Thou art truly the Christ, the Son of the Living God, Who camest into the world to save sinners, of whom I am first.”
Unless your deeply personal experience about the gap between behavior and Christ’s teachings starts with yourself then you are just being a Pharisee.
News flash. Christianity isn’t about what works for you. It’s about repentance and submission to God. You CAN be wrong and there is a REAL church and fundamental theology that cannot be dismissed.
If you’re leaving a church because the people there are “bad Christians” then you should look at yourself in the mirror because – guess what – we’re all bad Christians. The worst ones think they are the best.
No matter how “good” of a Christian you think you are you will always fall short and be a sinner.
The Bible is literally a book telling you that you are a fallen, spiritually sick creature that despite this fact is made in the Image of God and can be saved. In short, you ARE the problem. If you don’t understand that then you’ve missed the entire point. Submitting to God is actually the best, most healing thing for yourself because only then will you cooperate with the Holy Spirit and begin the process of spiritual healing.
You must go to church.
Exactly. You are using Scripture to keep dominion over yourself instead of submitting to God and living in accordance with the doctrine of the Church. You are building a wall to separate yourself from the body of Christ.
I’m not morally posturing or softening my language I’m giving you real Christian advice. Go to church, repent, participate in the sacraments and engage in fellowship with your struggling brothers and sisters in Christ. Your “story” doesn’t matter because Christianity isn’t about you. It’s about prayer, fasting and almsgiving. It’s about being a functioning member of the body of Christ and cooperating with the Holy Spirit.
If you’re upset because you’re not getting the response you want then maybe you want the wrong response.
The Church (Eastern Orthodoxy) is eternal. You are always welcome but it is up to you to take your seat at the wedding feast. Any church that bends to the arbitrary demands of modernity isn’t a real church. At best it’s a community with a vibe.
First of all, I want to thank you for engaging with me. You have definitely given more thought to your position than your initial replies. I dismissed you as someone not willing to actually engage based on those short responses, but this last reply had depth and effort. I truly appreciate and respect the effort.
You’ve made your position very clear: submission, sacraments, and Church are non-negotiables in your view of faith. I understand that, and I even understand where it comes from. The tradition you’re drawing from is ancient, rigorous, and unapologetically structured.
But what’s missing here, and what is truly heartbreaking, is any sign of compassion for another person’s spiritual wounds.
I didn’t come here to tear down faith. I came because I loved the Church. I gave it years of my life, my energy, and my care. I spent six years in formal religious study. I learned Greek and Hebrew so I could seek truth and teach it faithfully. I led weekly studies for fifteen years, speaking to literally thousands of people who longed to know Christ. I watched marriages fall apart. I watched people suffer in silence. I watched young hearts burn out trying to earn a love they were told was unconditional.
And I served right in the middle of all of it. My entire life’s work has been Christ.
So when I speak of grief, I speak from the inside. This isn’t theory to me. It’s memory. It’s life.
Your response hasn’t engaged with any of that. You haven’t asked a single question. You haven’t tried to understand. You’ve quoted doctrine and offered correction without even pausing to wonder who you’re speaking to. You assume I left because I didn’t want to submit, when in truth, I stayed far longer than was good for me because I wanted to be faithful.
The Church you speak of, and the God you seem to represent, appear interested only in obedience and conformity. But the Jesus I encountered in Scripture? He wept with the broken. He dined with the outcast. He challenged the religious elite. He called people not to power, but to love.
So here’s my sincere question for you:
If someone came to you and shared that the Church had wounded them, not once, but persistently and they did so with humility and pain in their voice, how would Jesus respond?
Would He accuse them?
Would He quote doctrine?
Would He tell them their experience doesn’t matter?
Or would He listen?
Because that’s really what this comes down to. Not whether I agree with every line of theology. Not whether I tick every box of orthodoxy. But whether those who bear the name of Christ actually reflect His posture when someone is bleeding spiritually.
I have no expectations here, but I’ll leave you with one final question for you to ask yourself and sit with:
Am I Christlike?
It’s THE view of the early church fathers ergo it’s real Christianity. Adherence to the structure of the church isn’t blind submission it is a union of the body in trust and love. The sacraments given to the Church by Christ are key to spiritual healing and union with God. (Which is what you’re on about by the way)
Clarity is a form of compassion. I don’t mince words especially on Lemmy where Christianity is all but spat upon. My comments are clear, concise and uncomfortably direct on purpose. No matter what you have gone through you will never heal heal on your own. Period. When you go to church you will find people that will relate to your struggles and a confessor who will hear your sins and offer spiritual guidance. You will not and should not expect to find this on Lemmy. There is no substitute for the Church.
That’s not what Lemmy is for. I didn’t offer you that courtesy because you shouldn’t bear your soul online to strangers. You should do that with your brothers and sisters in Christ. Preferably far away from electronics during coffee hour or something. You DO need a group of people that have a sound theology and doctrinal awareness so that you can trust their advice and earnestness. You could even befriend them and know that the new person in your life is well-intentioned and seeks Christ as you should.
Orthodoxy sees obedience as union, not conformity. It’s about becoming one with Christ, not passing a test. Christ did dine with the outcast, but He also told them, “Go and sin no more.” He loved without condition—but He also called to repentance. Both truths walk together. One without the other isn’t love—it’s sentimentality or legalism.
He also chastised them, challenged them and told them to pick up their cross and follow him.
I can’t speak for Christ but I assume he would listen, for a time. He has the advantage of truly knowing your heart. He would ultimately call you to repent and follow him though. Your suffering and heartbreak, your “story” is only important insofar as it leads you to Christ.
Without knowing you better than what I’ve read so far my inclination is not to engage with your call to bear witness. I do not think it would be helpful. This is the wrong place. By now you know where you should go to resolve such things. Christ is not monochromatic and the truth is the truth. You are excommunicating yourself from the body of Christ and are putting yourself in spiritual peril. Do with that what you will. I care far more about you going to church to find spiritual healing than I do about piety signalling with some phony affectation.
I have no idea of the content of your heart. This is a question only God can answer.
If I were to assess myself I’d say ‘No’. I’m a selfish and indulgent sinner who daily disobeys God and pursues my own passions.
I will add you to my prayers.
Alright, I want to say this first: I appreciate that you’ve stayed in this conversation. I really do. I can tell you care, that you take your tradition seriously, and that you’re trying to offer what you believe is truth. That matters to me. I’m going to speak just as plainly as you do, because I think you can handle it.
You keep pointing to your sin like it’s some badge of spiritual maturity. But Christ didn’t die so you could stay tethered to your brokenness. He died so you could actually change. He didn’t offer you a mirror just to say, “Yep, still filthy,” but to cleanse you and fill you with His Spirit so that His love becomes what people experience when they encounter you.
You speak of repentance as if it’s the destination. It’s not. It’s the doorway.
You talk about church as the only hospital, but then point to sacraments and tradition as the required price of admission. You keep reducing the gospel to obedience, when the whole point of transformation was not through your obedience, but His. You are like Christ because of Christ.
And if Christ in you and through you is the goal, then look at how He loved. He confronted religious pride. He broke bread with doubters. He listened before correcting. He touched wounds before calling people to sin no more.
Right now, your version of Christianity seems to say, “You’re disgusting. Come to church.”
But the gospel contradicts that directly with, “You are deeply loved. You have been made whole.”
Your sin isn’t the problem. If the work of the Cross is actually finished, your sin is not your problem. It was Christ’s.
What I see in you is a refusal to believe you can actually live differently. That Christ can actually live through you. That His Spirit doesn’t just forgive, it transforms.
You want me to come back to church? Then show me what church people look like when they truly believe they’ve been made new.
You say Christianity isn’t about me. But Jesus didn’t die to protect institutions. He died for people. For their hearts. For their healing. For their wholeness. That is the good news.
So I’ll keep talking to strangers here, or anywhere else I can connect with people. I’ll keep telling my story. I will bring the Church to them. Because someone out there needs to hear that there is nothing to be ashamed of anymore. Love defeated shame. Love defeated doctrine-as-a-weapon. Love is the good news we share through our words and our actions.
And since you speak often of repentance and obedience, I’ll offer this to you in your own language:
If the Church is a hospital, as you say, then what do you do when the wounded are afraid to walk through the doors, not because they reject healing, but because the people inside keep reopening their wounds?
Is it not a kind of spiritual malpractice to demand repentance from the hurting without first washing their feet?
You’re right, Christ calls us to die to ourselves. But if that death doesn’t make us more gentle, more approachable, more like a refuge for the broken, what exactly is dying in us? And what’s still holding on?
And one more thing. You seem to have misread my last question. It wasn’t for me.
It was for you.
Are you Christlike?
Not in your theology. Not in your discipline. Not in your sacraments or church attendance.
When people think of you, do they think of love?
Love in your tone. Love in your compassion.
Love in how you treat even a stranger—not just on some internet platform, but everywhere.
Because as Jesus said, that is how they will know you are His disciple.