There is this girl I like, she knows I would like to go on a date with her someday. She isn’t sure what she wants at the moment. That’s all fine but I genuinely begin to develop feelings for her. And I just don’t really care all that much for a friendship anymore. It screws with my psyche, it’s like only being allowed to smell a fine wine instead of drinking it. (bad analogy, but fuck it)

I’ve had enough. I just want to tell her I don’t like seeing her on just a friendship level any more. And if she doesn’t see me as a romantic partner, which is totally A-okay fine with me, but it will mean I’m walking away from this friendship all together. At the same time I don’t want to force her to make a decision (she sometimes has trouble saying no). And here’s the real son of a gun, she is highly suicidal and takes endings of friendship badly (as she herself has said).

So does anyone have any advice to spare here? Yes, I’m a terrible person so think of it for her sake. Because the friendship is going to end, one way or the other.

  • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    4 days ago

    I cannot fathom why you would want to date someone you don’t want as a friend unless you’re just horny about them and misdirecting that into romance.

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      4 days ago

      The problem is that I want more than friendship. It just leaves too much to be desired.

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        4 days ago

        You want all this from someone you say is highly suicidal. You understand that you would be setting yourself up for failure, don’t you?

        If she’s not in a good place, then your relationship will suffer. You need to be realistic here.