My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
If you are this allergic to nuance, I recommend staying away from threads that require logical/rational breakdowns of heavily-emotional topics.
You can’t just jump the gun (having fun blowing up families) about someone just because they answered OOPs question in an impartial manner.
So if you seriously cannot engage with this topic without resuming to attacks, I implore you to take a step back, reasess, and move on to something else.
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Not from Kansas. Well traveled and have seen a bunch of relationships. I’ve seen people get divorced and I’ve seen infidelity.
I have immeasurably more respect for those that get divorced no matter how hard it is. Breaking the vow through being a cheater is about as low as you can go.
Sorry you don’t hold marriage to sanctity it should be
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Says the man posting from lemmynsfw. Things in your second marriage must be going super well
If you held marriage to any standard, a man breaking his vows to sleep WITH HIS ASSISTANT should be pretty deplorable. And recommended an atleast young adult to just brush past that like it’s just another mistake is insane.
Yeah, just look the other way that he figuratively slapped your mom across the face. Atleast he’s cool though
Ah yes, you’re one of those who think porn is a sin. Explains a lot about your attitude in the comments here.
Never said porn was a sin
But that person had a choice to make an account on any instance they wanted to, and chose to make it on the most inappropriate one they could find.
Just saying
It’s not a sin, it’s just inappropriate. God you’re a judgemental dick
You would be happy if your partner had the easiest choice to not make their account on the porn instance but still did?
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Yes, I am judgemental of people who are advocating for not having the back of a noncheating parent.
“Oh she’s being mean by saying dont talk to him. How could she”
He literally fucked his assistant behind her back. What he did was 100x as worse. But its ok. He’s fun though!
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This isn’t an airport. You don’t need announce your departure
Nah. Im allowed to do whatever I want.
And I want to call out people for excusing an affair. The dad could have done it the right way, like an actual adult. Asking for a divorce is hard, but immeasurably easier emotionally to the person you make a commitment to than sneaking around and finally getting caught WITH YOUR ASSISTANT
No one is excusing an affair. People are merely trying to help OOP navigate an emotionally complex situation: wanting to keep contact with their father despite the circumstances, and wondering if their mother’s actions are justifiable or not.
You can do whatever you want, but that does not absolve you of consequences.
I only gave you genuine advice, taking breaks/disengaging is helpful. I cannot force you, ofcourse, there’s only so much I can do.
So please consider above, and have a nice day
Hey I know this guy just did one of the most deplorable things a man can do, but just continue having fun with him. It’ll be fine.