My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
Let me be perfectly clear.
THIS IS NOT THE KID’S PROBLEM.
Forcing them to take sides has ONLY NEGATIVE EFFECTS ON THE CHILD.
I know you REALLY feel for Mom, and want justice for her, and I don’t disagree with that, and I’m not defending Dad’s actions, but you need to be saying these things to Mom, or her peers (siblings, friends, HER parents)
You are trying to convince OP to weaponize themselves against their parent in order to enforce justice on someone that you don’t like and have never met.
Please stop.
I’m only stopping now cause OP cleared the situation up more.
Otherwise, I’d say I feel sorry for your mother. To have a child that wouldn’t have their back in that situation must be upsetting.
That’s pretty ironic considering she did what op’s dad did.
Edit: I just read the extra details that OP shared. Wow. You were way off, huh? 😂