• the_third@feddit.de
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    6 months ago

    Yes, but the whole thing isn’t about you but about the people you leave behind. It helps me a lot that I can visit the place where I buried my father’s ashes and tell him about what is going on and how live is currently. I miss him a lot.

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      6 months ago

      For every person like you there may be a person like me that couldn’t care less to visit a grave. I can remember my fallen ones from anywhere.

      Don’t want to sound callous but if you’re dead you’re dead to me too, like it’s a part of life. Just accept it and move on. I’m gonna die one day whoop whoop.

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        Maybe as a compromise, then, the people who care can do the thing and the people who don’t don’t have to?

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          Sure, but if the argument is that graveyards take to much valuable space that could be used to house living humans.

          Perhaps people should keep ashes in their own gardens etc and you can alsways go and do the things you do.

          To be transparent, this isn’t something I have given a lot of thought to until I saw this thread.

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            Something I think I’ve seen in movies (mostly ones implied to be ancient japan) is a family grave. A single pillar driven into the ground with the family name and then everyone is cremated or something. Notable individuals for the family get a pillar next to it, but this could be a solution as first world countries reach the point where space is a premium. This allows families to mourn recently, and not-so-recently deceased.

            Cyberpunk has the Columbariums - huge columns of thousands of cremated individuals, with a digital display for your Epitaph and name

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            6 months ago

            Suppose so, I feel like they’re pretty low on the list of land we could reclaim tho. Would rather go after golf courses first for example

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              Oh I agree that golf courses would be a priority. The same for office blocks where people can work from home.

              I’m with mark twain on golf, it’s a good walk spoiled 😂

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              The uk had 3500 cemeteries in 1914 and more have been built since. A a report in 2013 said that nearly half would be out of space by 2033.

              I wouldn’t like to say how much land this accounts for but just in my small town you could build hundreds of houses or even more apartments on all the land.