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Most incels and femcels do not meet their own standards of beauty, emotionality, and sociality. This is partly why they hate themselves so much and project that hate onto archetypes like Chad and Stacy. A lot of blackpilled incels genuinely believe they are unlovable and will be forever alone — any partner of those people will not be treated well since there’s an inherent lack of trust/belief in the relationship.
Not to mention that depressed/self-loathing people dating each other is a really bad idea and results in shitty relationships and emotional turmoil. Sometimes these couples become codependent and then they’re together for years even though they dislike each other. It doesn’t necessarily help anyone get better, it often makes it harder to work on yourself because of the “crabs in a bucket” mentality.
Sure, there will always be exceptions. And if you can afford therapy and medication then that definitely increases your chances.