I am sure you know a bunch of things about topics better than a lot of other people. Maybe you just think you don’t know it well enough. Plus, being into something doesn’t mean you have to be able to teach it to others, this doesn’t mean your dumb. When you get a chance, give yourself some grace, you deserve it! :)
Why does the instance make a big difference? I thought the point in federation is that the instance does NOT matter because everything shows up across instances? Genuinely curious and would appreciate if someone could explain.