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  • The heat could dry out your skin, which, if I’m not mistaken, is essentially what a burn is. However, as the other person noted, a sunburn is damage from radiation, not heat. So I think you could stretch the common definition of a burn to call heat induced dry skin a burn but calling it a sunburn would not be accurate.




  • I wondered about the same things you did when I saw this but I agree with that other guy too. The response of a rational person is to look for the logic in everything but Trump is an irrational being. Despite 10 years of his bullshit I still haven’t fully trained myself to expect him to be irrational all the time. It’s too counter-intuitive to stick that deep.



  • Don’t be afraid of them. Say it all loudly and often.

    Donald Trump is a traitor who should have been hung years ago. Elon Musk is a Nazi who should be beaten to death in the streets. Palantir should be dismantled for supporting and enabling fascism around the world. All billionaires should be publicly executed for crimes against humanity. The current American government is an enemy of freedom and democracy around the globe and should be overthrown by force if peaceful means are no longer possible, which looks more and more each day to be an accurate assessment of the situation.

    Fear will not silence us. We have more power than they ever will. All we have to do is decide to use it.


  • I don’t know you or your situation at all so specific advice is difficult to give but since you asked I will share a few things.

    1. Don’t make him feel bad about having a life outside of your relationship.

    This can be tricky as any relationship should entail a fair amount of time spent with your partner but I know far too many men who feel like their SO starts a fight with them anytime they want to hang out with their friends or even do something alone. Obviously they shouldn’t be regularly canceling plans with you to do these things but assuming there is a reasonable amount of joint activity going on you should be supportive of and even encouraging him to go do stuff without you from time to time. Occasional time apart is good for everyone.

    1. Express yourself clearly and out loud.

    One of the most common complaints I hear from men in relationships with women is that they feel like they get in trouble for things that they didn’t know were important to their partners. Men are not generally as in tune with the subtle side of communication. You may think you communicated indirectly but very clearly but often times the signals get missed. If you find yourself frustrated with something he’s done or not done ask yourself if you actually said out loud what you wanted or expected to happen. If not, try to tell him calmly and directly what you want and see what happens before you get upset with him.

    1. Find something he likes or enjoys and do it for / with him regularly.

    This is a simple way to ensure your partner knows you care about them. It doesn’t really matter what the thing is. It could be cooking a meal, playing a game together, something sexual, going to the park, etc. Find at least one thing that gives him joy and make that thing happen consistently. Once a week seems like a reasonable frequency to shoot for but that’s heavily dependent on the specific context.

    Clearly this is not an exhaustive list but I think anyone who has a partner that thinks about ways to improve their life / relationship in a similar fashion to the suggestions above is going to have a pretty solid foundation to build on. At their core, those suggestions are about trust, communication, and appreciation. Those are some of the most important aspects of any relationship. If you can find a way to let your partner know that you value those things you’ll be in good shape.