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  • odium@programming.devtomemes@lemmy.world•Temperatur
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    2 months ago

    What your body considers cold depends on what it is used to. My body is used to Texas weather and I consider 10 c (50 f) to be hoodie and pant weather.

    You might consider that to mean my body is used to a very hot temperature. But I’ve been on trips to places closer to the equator where, at 18 c (65 f), I would be wearing shorts and the locals are wearing their thickest sweaters (which are pretty light by my standards).

    There are Siberians out there who might consider what you consider to be cold to not be that cold.

    Cold and hot are relative.

  • odium@programming.devtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures?
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    2 months ago

    As another comment on this post explains, in urban middle class India, “arranged marriages” are when your parents are a dating app and set up meetings with people and both people getting married need to consent.

    Indians themselves, being a former British colony and thus speaking some degree of English, use those exact words. This isn’t a translation of an Indian phrase or someone else labeling Indian marriages “arranged marriages”. Middle class Indians split marriages into two categories. “Arranged marriages” and “love marriages”.

    “Love marriages” are when the partners themselves hit it off, date, and marry.

    “Arranged marriages” for middle class indians are when the parents set up meetings, and if both partners agree, they get married. Not much dating with that one, just a couple of meetings, then get engaged for a year (can vary), then marry. Either partner can stop this process at any point. After marriage, legally, either party can file a divorce. This is less common and more frowned upon in older generations but legally quite possible.

    For poor Indians in really rural areas, “arranged marriage” means something different. For them, both partners are forced to marry regardless of their wishes if their parents feel strongly enough about it. Legally, they have the same rights, but the societal pressure makes it effectively forced for them.

    The above is true for all religions in India except Islam. Muslims have some weird special laws and seperate civil courts and law. The Quran states some laws about divorce and other stuff and there would have been more riots and protests during the government’s formation if they weren’t allowed to follow the Quran’s laws. Some of these special laws have recently been banned, it’s very complicated and I don’t know much about the situation as I don’t live in India.

    I also have some Chinese friends whose idea of what an arranged marriage is is very similar to the Indian middle class.

    And if both India and China have similar views on arranged marriage, I’m guessing that some parts of South East Asia also have similar ideas. That’s easily over a quarter of the earth’s idea of “arranged marriage”.

  • odium@programming.devtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures?
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    2 months ago

    Except that “arranged marriage” is a matchmaking service in many cultures where both people need to agree to get married. And in many cultures, “arranged marriage” means both the man and the woman are forced to marry regardless of whether the man doesn’t want it or the woman doesn’t want it.

    There are indeed cultures where “arranged marriages” only happen if the man consents and the woman’s consent isn’t considered.

    I believe the downvotes are because of how many different meanings there are to “arranged marriage” and your comment implies that the only type of arranged marriage is the only man’s consent and no woman consent version. Your follow up comment also implies that divorce isn’t possible for arranged marriages, which, again, depends on the culture of the arranged marriage.

  • odium@programming.devtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Which languages do you speak?
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    2 months ago

    Perfectly fluent: English

    Fluent at talking and reading, but can’t write (horrible at spelling): Telugu (in two very different dialects)

    Illiterate, but can understand everything spoken: Kannada

    Can hold tourist level conversations and can read: German and Hindi

    What is a tourist level conversation? Talk slowly, pronounce stuff weird, ask ppl to repeat some things if they go too fast or have an accent that’s different than the one I learned.

    I’ve noticed that I only know languages in the indo-European and Dravidian families. Deliberating between whether to improve my Kannada or to learn a new east or south east Asian language next to increase my language family count.