My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
No, I misread the final sentence. I still agree with everything I said, it was just slightly out of context so I withdrew it
But go off just being a dick
Right. I’m the dick that says op should not let themselves be caught in the middle of their parents messy divorce in ways that they might regret later in life and you are the one advocating op go no contact despite us not knowing barely anything about what has been going on or why because this is your hill to show off your moral high ground and insert yourself in some drama that you are immune of consequences. Sure, dude. I’m the dick.
Im not saying go no contact forever. I’ve said previously they should have their mother’s back until he can genuinely say sorry and start the healing process
Right now everyone here is advocating for shitting on the mother in her most vulnerable state. Because the dad is fun
I’m sure it is hard for Mom right now, but she’s not in the room, so, we’re focusing on OPs well being.
It is not the kid’s responsibility to be their parent’s support team.
It is not the kid’s responsibility to dispense justice for the other parent.
Just because OP is the only character in this story we can interact with, it doesn’t mean that they need to right every wrong in it.
Then OP better be fine never talking to their mom again
Unless you are their mother and refuse to talk to them, that’s not up to you.
And if you are, or if she has the same plan, then OP would probably be better off without.
Yes, cause letting your child not only live with a cheater but the young ASSISTANT he fucked while still going through with your divorce is such a good move.
The dad obviously doesn’t make good choices. He’s only thinking about himself. And the child already thinks theyre the greatest.
Im not saying parents should never talk to their kids. But thats what’s going to happen if OP stays in the house with is dad and his YOUNG ASSISTANT THAT MOVED IN BEFORE THE DIVORCE SHE CAUSED IS EVEN FINAL
Let me be perfectly clear.
THIS IS NOT THE KID’S PROBLEM.
Forcing them to take sides has ONLY NEGATIVE EFFECTS ON THE CHILD.
I know you REALLY feel for Mom, and want justice for her, and I don’t disagree with that, and I’m not defending Dad’s actions, but you need to be saying these things to Mom, or her peers (siblings, friends, HER parents)
You are trying to convince OP to weaponize themselves against their parent in order to enforce justice on someone that you don’t like and have never met.
Please stop.
I’m only stopping now cause OP cleared the situation up more.
Otherwise, I’d say I feel sorry for your mother. To have a child that wouldn’t have their back in that situation must be upsetting.