In their culture the woman and her family are blamed if she is ‘disgraced’. Her family is ostracized by other families in the community, making it harder for the men to find or keep jobs and do business, and the social connections of the mother’s or other women in that family will be shunned making it difficult to find support during times of distress like illness, pregnancy and births, and even aquirimg food. Marrying off kids to other families will become more difficult if not impossible potentially ending the family line. The community support centers, or mosques, will turn them away. Siblings and relatives will distance themselves. If you want to destroy a family, destroy their women.

In childish terms, they now have cooties, ‘ew get away from me’. I don’t put it that way to be insensitive, I only intend to help some understand. Kids have a way of getting to the core of our social rules in order to understand how to navigate them.