• ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    4 months ago

    Also traditions that, despite someone else’s claim, probably don’t cause any psychological harm, at least most of the time.

    Actually you asked for nothing, you made a whole lot of assumptions instead. And

    evidence that it hurts anyone

    Here again you invalidate the feelings of those telling you with their own words that they don’t like it. The evidence they don’t like it is them telling you they don’t like it, you don’t need a scientific paper to corroborate that some people find it objectionable, you just dismiss them because you want to partake in the behavior they find objectionable.

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      I absolutely asked for evidence. I just didn’t ask you for evidence. Weird that you apparently read through my comments and didn’t see that.

      And not one person has told me that they were personally hurt by this happening to them. They have just said that it is wrong.

      You show me the person in this thread who said it caused them pain. I can’t invalidate feelings that people don’t have. Someone not liking something has nothing to do with whether or not that thing causes trauma or any sort of psychological damage to anyone unless it caused them that damage.

      And now I am asking you for evidence. Please quote the person that was hurt by their parents doing this.

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          I do not believe that any more than I believe you are any sort of expert in psychology or understand what is legal or not legal to have on a phone.

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            Oh ok so only if I have a peer reviewed case, not if it actually affected me, how’d I know that’d be your lame excuse.

            I hope you show a kid those pics and they ask for copies for later, then it’ll get weird for ya.

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              Yes, if you can’t provide evidence for something I have no reason to believe you. I’m not sure how that’s a lame excuse. It’s why I’m an atheist as well. But you do you.

              I’m not sure why you think I would talk about me showing a child my daughter’s baby photos since we were talking about me showing them to my adult child’s partner. Do you think my daughter will be a pedophile when she’s an adult and that I would support her in that or something?

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                  Okay, well someone else claimed that they did have that trauma and I don’t disbelieve them. I would have had a more substantive response to their post, but they decided to accuse me of child abuse.

                  Edit: and now, they are saying I have a child porn collection. So I’m not sure I believe their claim at this point either.

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                Well it’s usually done to teen children’s teen partners ime, but ok fine I hope your adult childs adult partner asks for copies for later, the age of the person making the creepy comment is really not important but I think it’s worse if they’re adults so I’ll roll with it lol. Maybe she doesn’t know her husband’s proclivities, I’m not sure most pedos advertise it willingly, but he’s “tooootally not gonna spank it he just wants it for archival purposes” lol.

                If your wife says “not tonight I have a headache” do you ask for evidence of hypertension? If she says something you did made her upset do you ask for evidence in a peer reviewed paper on why X could possibly be psychologically damaging? I’d bet the answer is “no I take her word at face value because it is her feelings after all.” But fuck the feelings of others? Would I have to begrudgingly have sex with you for you to take my word about my feelings?

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                  My wife and I have her and my naked baby photos. We didn’t have to ask for copies, they just gave us the family photo albums. And when parents die, that often happens automatically. It kind of feels like you don’t know how any of this works.

                  And now you’re comparing showing someone a naked baby to marital rape? Really?

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                    I didn’t say “baby photos” I said “if your wife tells you she is upset about something do you ask her for peer reviewed studies on how that something could possibly psychologically effect someone negatively, or do you just believe she is feeling how she says she is feeling?”

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              Hmm… I’m the callous asshole and yet you’re the one who has repeatedly insulted me.

              I wonder what that makes you?